Having your child assessed is always an uncomfortable, emotional and confronting process. No matter how many times we may have done it, it really doesn't get any easier. Receiving the results, reading the report, and coming to terms with what they mean. Your heart hurting for how hard your child may be finding things, why they behave the way they do.
Does the diagnosis change who your child is? No way. Does it affect the way you feel about them and who they are as a person? Not a chance. But it does help get them the support they need, and that is the reason we chase these labels isn't it? We go through this process so they can get the assistance they need to learn, live, communicate, have friendships, progress in a world that is otherwise very challenging for them.
It is such a rollercoaster having to admit something isn't the way it should be, gathering information that shows your childs' worst day and having to present them in that light. In a way it's like your dobbing them in, not showing their best attributes and a sense of guilt can come into it also. You have to keep reminding yourself that you are doing this for them, for their future, like everything else you do everything for your kids to succeed.
So I guess today's post is a hats off to mums that have to go through this process and to say I see you, I hear you and it may heart out hearts going through this but it also makes us the best mums when we support our kids in whatever way is best for them.
* Just as a quick mention, a group that I have been in for years, that supports mums with children who have special needs, have just released a free app so we can all support each other on our own special social media site. It's called #Kindship and you can download this at your app store. Check it out.
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